HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN AFTER YOU KNOW SHE LIKES YOU

Well fellas, I'm gonna get in trouble for this one, but it's ok. I'm prepared to suffer the consequences to bring you the knowledge I have gained. Actually had to go through a lot of heartache in my life to bring you this info but it is imperative that you know.

We will refer to the person who sent me this email as John Doe and he's in a situation right now that I have recently been in on two occasions in the last year. John has been dating someone for about three months and things have been going well. They started spending a lot of quality time together early on and it seemed as though it was heading somewhere even though their original intentions were to have a very casual relationship. As it happens sometimes, when you least expect to find someone is when it happens to you, and when you least expect to fall for someone, is also when it happens. I can start you off with that John.

Well, according to John's email, everything was great until he initiated a conversation about something more serious than a casual relationship. That was when the push and pull started. Guess what brother…been there a couple times recently and I can only tell you one thing about the way a woman's mind works. Make sure all you guys put this down in your mental rolodex.

"Women will only do and think what you want them to, only if you give them the opportunity to do it for themselves."

In other words, you can't make a woman be your girlfriend because you want to be her boyfriend. You can't make a woman love you, because you love her. Same goes for just about everything else including sex. It's the dilemma that will plague us forever. Just so you know, that sensitive man bullshit late 80's early 90's garbage isn't what a woman wants anymore. Bury that trend with Tears for Fears! And I'm not going to tell you to treat them like shit either. A woman is a complex animal that you will never fully understand. What you must find is that happy medium. Let me try to not leave you hanging with no answers.

If you really like her, you have to hear her. I'm not talking about listening to her…I'm talking about hearing her. One thing that I regretfully can say I didn't do recently. I listened. But I listened on a level that was slightly jaded to what I wanted. John, if you are reading this, I know it isn't too late for you so try that. In other words, if she sounds like she needs a break from you, don't ask her to go out. Let her initiate the next time you see her. Guess what? If she does that, then you are still there and she is still thinking about you. If not, your screwed anyway…come down to the Bayou with me on a Thursday night and we'll get rip-roaring shitty and pick up young women. Then you can practice on how many days to wait until you call them for the first time. HAHA!

A woman always wants her space even if she is in love with you and even if she considers you her boyfriend or fiancé or husband. The only tricky part is what I'm going to help you with right now. There is space…and there is ignoring. If you like her, don't ignore her. That doesn't get you anywhere. It may for a short period, but John it appears as though you are interested in the long haul. Just let her initiate things for a while. When she calls you, be glad to hear from her and be generally concerned about her. Ask her about her day, ask what she's doing at work, anything else that you can think of. Be her friend. Chicks dig that! When you see her, make her laugh, let her talk, hear everything she is telling you. But whatever you do, do not ask her about the two of you. I made that mistake. I guarantee if you do not bring it up, sooner or later, she will because she will be just as intrigued about how you are feeling.

I will leave you with this and it sucks but if you subscribe to it, it will work. If you like her, the more space you give her, the less she will want. Good luck John!

Quim