WHERE & WHAT TO DO ON A FIRST DATE

I'm here to help fellas, just like I said I would. This is really easy stuff to me so let me break it down for you. How many times have you heard this first though…"All right…cool…so we'll go out on Wednesday night…What do you want to do?…Oh I don't care…what do you want to do?" STOP RIGHT THERE!!!! The next statement out of your mouths fellas, should be "All right, excellent, I know exactly what we will do." Women love when you do that. A man that takes control of the situation, when the woman gives him the opportunity. It isn't that often these days when a woman does this so take advantage of them while you can. It's like sex. If she says, " All right, are you ready to get out of here, I'm getting' kinda horny." Your next response will always be "Check?" Take control fellas!

First date…Well…If you met her in a bar, you can always take her to a bar…not a club but a bar. This is a date if you are trying to get her loaded so she thinks you are cuter than you are. Actually it is also a great place to have a conversation and if you want to get to know her, your opportunity is there. I will never recommend a dinner date as the first date unless you have known her for some time and it is the first time you guys took a shot at intimacy. I only say that because dinner involves things you do with your mouth and for a lot of us fellas, that is usually how we screw things up. Best to try and focus on making her laugh…not worrying about gleeking or shit stuck in your teeth as well. Movies…no! You can't talk in a theatre. Be honest with you, some of the best first dates for me have been to sporting events. No one in Vet's stadium these days so you can get away with cheap tickets there…but any professional sporting event besides golf. A Sixer's game or a Flyer's game…it's all good, even if she doesn't like sports. Reason being - it's a social gathering. Everyone loves events and places where there are lots of people. On a sidenote…you have a much better chance of getting her to enjoy the sport if you take her to a real game. This will give you ample opportunity to be a sports couch potato later in the relationship if it ever gets there. You do not want to be creative on a first date! She may think you put too much effort into it.

Second date…different story…be creative and do something fun. Bistro Romano in Olde City has a Mystery Dinner Theatre which is very interactive and a lot of fun if you go there to participate. Don't be shy! Some girls do like shy guys, but not when they are given the opportunity to shine. So have a few and enjoy it. A show in Atlantic City is always cool…a good band, or some comedy act is always good. Actually, the Brewing Company on Sunday nights has a comedy night and it has been very funny the two times that I have been there so you can check that out as well.

THE ULTIMATE DATE

When the games are over and you want to show her how much you like her, I pose to you, fellas, the one that will knock her out. Be aware, however, that once you do this one, all other dates will be pale in comparison. You need to have one of her friends get involved with this one and it takes some time but you will be officially dubbed as the greatest in her mind. Oh, and apply for a new credit card before this one. You can only go on this date between late April and early October due to weather patterns. Ideally you want to do it between early May and late June. Tell her you want to take her to dinner on a Saturday but you want to spend the day with her as well. Have her pack an overnight bag with a bathing suit and some change of clothes and tell her you want to have seafood at some restaurant of your choice at the Jersey shore. You could say the Deauville Inn or something and say we might as well see what the beach is like, but if the weather sucks, our hotel has an indoor swimming pool (reason for the suit). As you pick her up at her place and she gets in the car, you stop and say,"Oh, I almost forgot, you need something else………(pause and smile)………We aren't having dinner at a seafood restaurant at the Jersey shore. We are having dinner at a seafood restaurant in Bermuda. Go get your passport or your birth certificate real fast." As she begins to shit herself and deny to you that you are actually doing this, you reach into your overnight bag and pull out the tickets.

Only spend the night there…it's less than a two-hour flight from Philly. Try to arrange with the airline if you want to stay another day or two but that will be up to her work schedule and if she wants to call in sick. Go and enjoy. By the way - guaranteed lovin' that night!!!

Quim